Sermon September 13, 2020
Our country is in the midst of a huge debate over the actions of the police. I don’t have the answers to the issues. I struggle to understand why minor offenses escalate into terrible shootings, injuries and death. I saw a story this week about a mother who called 911 to get help for her 13-year-old autistic son. She had hoped that he would be taken to a psychiatric hospital. Instead he is in the hospital for gunshot wounds from the police. By the way this is a white child in Salt Lake City. As I said, I don’t understand why things escalate so quickly and so terribly.
As we struggle with this issue, I am reminded of two beautiful and amazing stories. The first happened in a courtroom just last October. An ex-police officer by the name of Amber Guyger had just been convicted of murder. The circumstances are so sad. Guyger thought she was entering her own apartment but instead she was one floor up and she entered the wrong apartment. She found a black man inside and shot Botham Jean to death. Two peoples lives were changed forever, in part because of a simple mistake and in part by a fear that too easily can overcome any of us.
In the penalty phase of the trial, the dead man’s brother, Brandt Jean, took the stand and forgave Guyger. Brandt Jean was only 18 years old at the time and he said that he loved his brother dearly and missed him so much. As I understand it, the young man told Amber Guyger that he forgave her, that he wanted only the best for her, and that he wanted her to give her life to Christ, something that he said Botham would have wanted as well. Then, Brandt asked the judge and was given permission to go and give a hug to the woman who killed his brother. They spent a moment together as Amber Guyger sobbed. What a wonderful example of what Jesus teaches us about forgiveness. My friends, this happened just last October it could be a shining light for all of us.
I heard of another wonderful story this week. A lady in Alabama had been arrested several times by policeman named Terrell Potter. Each arrest was for a crime she committed to support her opioid addiction. But she finally was able to beat the problem. She credited Officer Potter for saving her life. One day she saw on the internet that the officer needed a kidney. The lady immediately decided to help. Amazingly, their kidneys matched. She donated her kidney to Potter in July and now both are doing well. An example of forgiveness and reconciliation.
In the gospel, Peter thought he was being generous when he asked Jesus if seven times was enough times to forgive another. But Jesus was even more insistent. You should forgive seventy times seven, he said. In essence, Jesus told his followers that they should forgive others who sin against them always and forever. The spirit of forgiveness should be such an integral part of our lives that we just forget how many times we have forgiveness another person. When we seek to follow this direction, it has such an impact on our lives. Martin Luther King Jr. once said that “Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” Brandt Jean had heard this direction many times in his life and had accepted it as part of being a Christian. It is a way of living that all of us aspire to.
We find examples of this perspective on forgiveness many times in the Gospels. Jesus offered many examples of forgiveness for when he healed other people he almost always offered forgiveness for their sins. One of my favorite passages is found in Matthew chapter 7, “‘Do not judge, so that you may not be judged. For with the judgement you make you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get. Why do you see the speck in your neighbor’s eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye? It is so easy for us to see the sins of others and not see our own sins.
The reading from Romans today seems so consistent with this idea. Paul was writing to the Christian community and asking them to not judge how others worshipped God. It seems that Paul believed there were many ways to be spiritual and reach out in prayer. We need to leave it up to each person to find that place where we find God. Why do you pass judgement on your brother or sister, Paul wrote. This passage leaves no room for pettiness about our Christian practices but rather encourages charity and sensitivity toward others.
Forgiveness is often a very difficult thing for us to do and yet it has benefits for both parties. It may not come quickly. We may have to work on it. There is no better reason to forgive than when we say the Lord’s prayer. Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us. When we forgive the sins of others, God will forgive our sins as well. In Matthew’s gospel this even becomes a warning about eternal life. If we don’t forgive others then God will not forgive us and we will be doomed to the fiery prison of hell. These are strong words.
The parable that is found in today’s gospel is a little unusual. It could not have been based on a real-life scenario as no one could possibly rack up a debt of 10,000 talents. That would be the equivalent of the daily wage for 60 million people. No one could afford to loan that much to a slave. That is why I concluded that the debt is about what we owe to God. Our debt to God is so large that there is no way that we could possibly repay it. And yet God forgives us. We remember the sacrifice that Jesus made for us. Jesus gave up his life so that our sins would be forgiven.
It is out of thanksgiving for God’s forgiveness that we forgive others. We are not like the slave in the parable who decided as soon as he had been forgiven for his own debt, he could mistreat others who owed money to him. We don’t know why he wouldn’t forgive the debt of others but it was certainly selfish and Jesus would never approve of someone being selfish.
A few years ago, we did a Lenten study on forgiveness. I learned that there are benefits to ourselves for forgiving others. The benefits can be physical and mental and emotional. Nelson Mandela spoke about the harm that is caused to ourselves when we are unable to forgive. He said, “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” The Mayo Clinic suggests that letting go of grudges and bitterness can improve our relationships, give us Improved mental health, lower our anxiety and blood pressure, improve heart health and self- esteem, and decrease the symptoms of depression.
Offering forgiveness is not something that means we are more vulnerable, it does not mean that we invite future harm to ourselves, nor does it necessarily change punishment for offenses. The policewoman Amber Guyger was sentenced to several years in prison for killing Botham Jean even though his brother forgave her.
Some of you will remember a book called The Shack in which a man must confront his anger for someone who killed his daughter. The author, William Young wrote this in the book,
“Forgiveness is not about forgetting. It is about letting go of another person's throat......Forgiveness does not create a relationship. Unless people speak the truth about what they have done and change their mind and behavior, a relationship of trust is not possible. When you forgive someone you certainly release them from judgment, but without true change, no real relationship can be established."
Jesus taught us that we are to forgive over and over again. Sometimes the harm that has been done to us is minor and forgiveness is not too hard. But when the hurt is significant, the words of Jesus are difficult. In fact, we often feel safer or self-satisfied by holding on to our anger or just feeling sorry for ourselves. Yet, deep down, we know that we can and should be better. Forgiveness makes us better and forgiveness creates the opportunity for change in the other person or even possibly reconciliation. If you are struggling with forgiveness of another person, I encourage you to turn to Jesus. For he understood the feelings himself and will help you with your feelings as well. Amen.
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